Explore More 2017

Sad that you missed out on the big Explore More Summit 2017?

It's not too late to grab the talks, dive into the workbooks, and explore your more with these amazing speakers. You can also see who spoke, review the schedule, and more down below.

The Explore More 2017 Experts

The journey continued in 2017 with 30 talks from experts who are challenging the myths around sex, love, feelings, and bodies. 

Aida Manduley

Sex Educator & Intersectionality Expert

Aida Manduley
Allison Moon, Explore More Summit expert on sex, sexuality, and gender.

Allison Moon

Sex Educator & Girl Sex Expert

Betty Martin

Sacred Intimate, Developer of the Wheel of Consent

Betty Martin - Explore More Summit 2017
Cathy Vartuli

Cathy Vartuli

Sex, Shyness, & Trauma Expert

Conner Habib

Porn, Sex, & Culture Expert

Conner Habib, Explore More Summit expert on porn, consent, and sexuality.
Cyndi Darnell, Explore More Summit expert on sensuality, sexuality, and erotic pleasure.

Cyndi Darnell

Sex Therapist & Erotic Arousal Expert

Dirty Lola

Sex Toy & Non-Monogamy Expert

Dirty Lola, Explore More Summit expert on sex toys and communication.
Cyndi Darnell, Explore More Summit expert on sensuality, sexuality, and erotic pleasure.

Elle Chase

Fat Sex Expert & LadyCheeky.com Curator

Emily Nagoski

Sex Researcher & Libido Expert

Dan Savage, Explore More Summit Expert in sex and relationships
Emily Quinn - Explore More Summit

Emily Quinn

Intersex Expert & Advocate

Erin Lee Kaufmann

Somatic Therapist & Body Love Expert

Erin Lee Kaufmann, Explore More Summit expert on somatic healing and embodied pleasure.
Feminista Jones, Explore More Summit expert on sex, BDSM, and relationships.

Feminista Jones

Sexuality & Anti-Racism Expert

Dr. Gina Senarighi

Relationship Coach & Uncommon Love Expert

Dr. Gina Senarighi, Explore More Summit expert on non-monogamy, relationships, communication, and queer issues.
Kate Lister, Whores of Yore

Dr. Kate Lister

Sexual Historian, Curator of Whores of Yore

Kate McCombs

Communication & Empathy Expert, Creator of Tea & Empathy

Kate McCombs, Tea and Empathy, Explore More Summit 2017
Kelsey Obsession

Kelsey Obsession

Porn Performer & Fetish Expert

Kevin Patterson

Creator of Poly Role Models, Polyamory Expert

Kevin Patterson
Lux Alptraum

Lux Alptraum

Sex Educator & Writer

Dr. Meg-John Barker

Therapist, Sex & Relationship Expert

Dr. Meg John Barker, Explore More Summit expert on sex, relationships, and mindfulness.
Megan Devine

Megan Devine

Emotional Intelligence & Grief Expert

Melissa Toler

Food & Body Image Coach, Anti-Diet Culture Expert

Melissa Toler
Midori - Kink expert, Explore More Summit 2017

Midori

Super Nova of Kink

Orpheus Black

BDSM & Kink Expert

Orpheus Black
Reid Mihalko, Explore More Summit expert on sex and relationships.

Reid Mihalko

Sex Geek, Sex & Relationship Coach

Robin Wilson-Beattie

Sex & Disability Expert

Robin Wilson-Beattie
Sonalee Rashatwar

Sonalee Rashatwar

Anti-Oppression Fat Positivity Sex Therapist

Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg

Sex Toy & Kink/BDSM Experts

Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg, Explore More Summit experts on sex toys and kink/BDSM.
Tristan Taormino, Explore More Summit expert on sex, non-monogamy, and feminist porn.

Tristan Taormino

Non-Monogamy & Sex Expert

TT Baum

Sacred Intimate & Bondassage Trainer

TT Baum, sacred intimate and Bondassage trainer - Explore More Summit 2017
Virgie Tovar, Explore More Summit expert on body love, body positivity, and fat acceptance.

Virgie Tovar

Fat Activist & Body Image Expert

So, how can you take the talks home with you? Here are your options:

SILVER

Grab the summit MP3 audio files for all of the summit talks. Listen and re-listen at your leisure, then start some juicy conversations as you explore your more. Plus, get all 10 mini workbooks.

GOLD

If you're ready to take the leap and explore even more, this is the package for you.

You'll get access to the audio files AND videos for all of the talks (that's only 75 cents each), plus their transcripts. You'll also get 10 expanded workbooks packed with transformative exercises, journal prompts, and questions expanding on each of the summit talks AND access to 6 weeks of recorded group calls (9 hours!) taking you deeper into overwhelm, empathy, pleasure, receiving, performance, and much more.

PLATINUM

Not only will you get everything in the Gold package (audio files, videos, transcripts, expanded workbook, and recordings of  6 weeks of group calls), but you'll be an official Explore More VIP.

As a VIP, you'll receive $200 worth of goodies which include a free copy of Dawn Serra's Relationship Reconnection Kit, access to 2016's summit talks and workbooks, AND a one-hour one-on-one coaching call with Dawn.

Want to know what we talked about in 2017?


Day 1: Aired March 8, 2017

Kate McCombs

Kate McCombs, Tea and Empathy, Explore More Summit 2017

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Kate's recent joy awakening after years of chronic pain, and why people in chronic conditions are not broken or in need of fixing.
  • The power of empathy & learning new words for our feelings. Kate calls it a "feelings fap."
  • Why advice is rarely what we need from people we love and what a more radical alternative is that creates connection & healing.
  • Ways to externalize the feelings in our head to help us better move through them and share them.

Emily Nagoski

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Mismatched libido and some of the myths we have around desire and wanting sex.
  • Normalizing responsive desire & the brain mechanisms that create connection and desire.
  • Emily's powerful definitions for confidence, joy, & love and how they make space for new levels of self-kindness.
  • Scientifically backed techniques for working with anxiety, depression, and trauma.

Melissa Toler

Melissa Toler

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Why the body positivity movement is failing us and what we need to be aware of around true size acceptance.
  • Divorcing diet culture and how focusing on autonomy and somatic wisdom can shift us out of the cycle of self-criticism and destruction.
  • The violence and dehumanizing practices that are dieting and how they tie to other systems of oppression like racism.
  • The disconnect between wanting to feel pleasure during sex and chronically ignoring/abusing our bodies outside the bedroom.

Day 2:  Aired March 9, 2017

Meg-John Barker

Dr. Meg John Barker, Explore More Summit expert on sex, relationships, and mindfulness.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • The systemic & pervasive problems with sex advice, and what Meg-John is proposing as an alternative to enjoying sex.
  • Why having sexual goals (orgasm, erection, wetness, intercourse) pushes us further from pleasure & connection.
  • Getting our needs met from a variety of sources and the importance of valuing non-romantic, non-sexual relationships.
  • Consent for the entire relationship and what that looks like for all of us.
  • Identifying & rejecting binaries around sex, gender, mental health.

Feminista Jones

Feminista Jones, Explore More Summit expert on sex, BDSM, and relationships.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Sexual liberation and why it's a critical piece of feminism and anti-racism work.
  • Black joy as an act of resistance and healing.
  • Dating and break-ups when you're a parent and navigating those shifting relationships with your kids.
  • Allyship and how being an ally often reinforces sources of oppression. Also, we dig into creating spaces that allow for growth & mistakes as a source of connection and strength within our communities.

Betty Martin

Betty Martin - Explore More Summit 2017

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Touch and sex as independent needs and why conflating/confusing them can lead to toxic and harmful behaviors.
  • The difference between "want to" and "willing to" when it comes to sex & pleasure. How do we learn our wants and then how do we practice expressing them?
  • Betty's unique definition for receiving and the incredible shift that happens when we reframe what it means to receive.
  • The Three Minute Game and how to use it to find your voice and your pleasure.

Day 3: Aired March 10, 2017

Megan Devine

Megan Devine

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • How Megan found herself doing grief work and what it means to live inside of deep grief and loss.
  • The pain and damage that most advice and platitudes cause in situations of heartbreak and grief, and how bearing witness is a healing & challenging alternative.
  • Why we tend to blame people for their suffering and what it shows us about our own fears and insecurities.
  • When trauma and loss occur, the universe shifts. What does it look like to live in a post-loss world and why is self-kindness often the most challenging part of healing? 

Allison Moon

Allison Moon, Explore More Summit expert on sex, sexuality, and gender.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Our cultural narrative around being sexually skilled and how the way we talk about sex creates more shame.
  • Why de-centralizing orgasm and inviting creativity can ultimately bring us to more pleasure and joy.
  • Permission to be clumsy, to fumble conversations, to ask for guidance and help during sex, and why that's so freeing.
  • Self-awareness and jealousy. Allison shares how and why her jealousy comes up and how she manages those uncomfortable feelings.

Conner Habib

Conner Habib, Explore More Summit expert on porn, consent, and sexuality.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • As a culture, we value suffering as a way to learn and grow while looking at pleasure with suspicion. What if we centered pleasure as a core principle, as our god?
  • Why we cannot have sexual liberation if we aren't also tying sex positivity to other systems of oppression like fat phobia and racism.
  • Decolonizing our minds through radical art and porn to imagine a new world and express what might be possible.
  • Why we need to unlearn everything we know about sex and move away from a model of sex education that prescribes/tells people what they should experience and instead invites self-inquiry and expression.

Day 4: Aired March 11, 2017

Reid Mihalko

Reid Mihalko, Explore More Summit expert on sex and relationships.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Moving towards fear, towards scary conversations to reduce shame & increase connection.
  • All the ways we are made to feel broken and ashamed, and Reid's suggestions for navigating and finding relief from our inner dialog.
  • Performance anxiety, erections, and Reid's love of hand sex and sex toys (professional tools create professional results!).
  • Reid's slut protocols, or how we can be more mindful and deliberate about who we fall in love with.
  • The importance of getting non-sexual needs met outside of our intimate relationships and hook-ups.

Kate Lister

Kate Lister, Whores of Yore

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • The history and origins of the word 'whore' and why Kate deliberately uses it to de-stigmatize & educate around sex work.
  • Why television and movies are so hellbent on portraying medieval times as being highly sexually violent and what the history ACTUALLY says about raping and pillaging.
  • Pubic hair and the incredibly polarizing responses Kate gets around pubic hair imagery. 
  • Feminism & abortion and the hypocrisy of the arguments around anti-sex work & anti-porn movements.
  • History of sexual shame & what it means for us now.

Midori

Midori - Kink expert, Explore More Summit 2017

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Midori's unique definition of BDSM and why her approach offers so many more options and invitations for play.
  • Tips for getting started as a FemDomme and how to make it an expression of your personality rather than a performance based on other people's fantasies.
  • Rope and bondage and how Midori approaches it as a movement and a way to connect with another.
  • Why Midori is so over people talking about mindfulness and what she thinks is a much better and more accessible alternative.

Day 5: Aired March 12, 2017


Tristan Taormino

Tristan Taormino, Explore More Summit expert on sex, non-monogamy, and feminist porn.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Finding ways to be creative, to create, and to self-care in the face of the current political climate, and why we need community more than ever.
  • Sexuality and pleasure as an act of resistance.
  • Why the porn tube sites are so terrible for the porn industry and the world, and better alternatives for erotic consumption.
  • Tristan's very personal journey through vulnerability, resilience, and mistakes, and what it means for her life now.


Sonalee Rashatwar

Sonalee Rashatwar

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Decolonizing sex positivity and what it means to center the most marginalized voices and bodies.
  • Sonalee's journey with her body and her sexuality, which is powerful and beautiful.
  • Trauma, disassociation, and what it means to live as a survivor in the short and long term following sexual trauma.
  • Learning how to trust ourselves and our inner wisdom, and why we must unlearn everything we've been taught. Sonalee also dives into Afro-centric thought and how an approach of internal inquiry can set us all free.

Sunny Megatron &
Ken Melvoin-Berg

Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg, Explore More Summit experts on sex toys and kink/BDSM.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Humor, sex, and kink, and why we need to stop clinging to these super serious, super ego-based ideas about sex and BDSM.
  • How Sunny and Ken maintain their love, keep their marriage strong, and what their rituals of connection look like.
  • Mistakes beginners to BDSM make and what some better alternatives are to enjoying this new playground.
  • Clown sex - what is it and why it's so freeing for them.
  • Being missionaries of fuck and helping people find their pleasure.

Day 6: Aired March 13, 2017

Kevin Patterson

Kevin Patterson

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Kevin's journey into polyamory and how he was inspired to start Poly Role Models.
  • Mistakes in relationships and how to move forward from them.
  • Rituals Kevin has to stay connected with his wife, and why he doesn't limit himself to people he's interested in.
  • The importance of being open with your children to avoid shame and secrecy.
  • Why it takes intention to create inclusive kink and poly communities, and what Kevin does when he sees a lack of diversity in these spaces.

Cyndi Darnell

Cyndi Darnell, Explore More Summit expert on sensuality, sexuality, and erotic pleasure.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Cyndi's very personal story of trauma and resilience and how it led her towards a lifetime of reducing sexual shame.
  • Why sometimes we aren't actually stuck, but instead we are protecting ourselves from further hurt.
  • Dealing with loneliness in our lives and inside of relationships, and ways to self-care around tough feelings.
  • The quest for a woman's orgasm, and why it's critical to understand WHY you want an orgasm so that you can better explore what's driving you.

Kelsey Obsession

Kelsey Obsession

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • What led to Kelsey's transition from academic to fetish porn performer.
  • The reality versus the fantasy of porn and what she wishes more people understood about the performance of sex.
  • Fetishes, especially those that are on the edges, and how to talk to people about your desires.
  • The surprising disappointment that can come with actually living a fantasy in real life and why sometimes fantasies are best left to the imagination.
  • Awkwardness and sex - why we all need to embrace it.

Day 7: Aired March 14, 2017

Cathy Vartuli

Cathy Vartuli

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Where our fear of not fitting in comes from and how we can begin to create more space around rejection, especially if we're in a fat body.
  • Cathy's belief that she was the only awkward person in the world, and how things shifted when she started embracing the awkward.
  • Shyness and introversion - what they're like and how to date if you're shy.
  • Why you can't fight your way out of trauma or resist your way out, and what you can do instead to thrive and heal.

Robin Wilson-Beattie

Robin Wilson-Beattie

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Robin's story of how she became quadriplegic.
  • The importance of reproductive justice within the context of disability, and Robin's story of doctors saying terrible things about her pregnancy and abortion as a person with a disability.
  • Being raped at Burning Man and why people with disabilities are vulnerable to sexual assault and consent issues.
  • Why disability is a natural part of the human condition, and how we can have wonderful sex in a body that is aging or disabled or in chronic pain. Plus, product recommendations!

Aida Manduley

Aida Manduley

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Leaving space for change, and why adopting new identities doesn't invalidate prior identities.
  • Violence inside of LGBTQIA relationships and where queer/trans folks can get support.
  • David Bowie and reconciling people we love with behaviors that are abusive. What does transformative justice look like?
  • How we can make sex education more inclusive of marginalized identities.
  • Ritual, magic, and woo to make our sexual experiences more meaningful and powerful.

Day 8: Aired March 15, 2017

Erin Lee Kaufmann

Erin Lee Kaufmann, Explore More Summit expert on somatic healing and embodied pleasure.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Uncertainty and how being in an in-between space (rather than rushing towards a solution) can actually yield more creativity and permission.
  • How to cultivate trust in our bodies and the messages they send to us, and how to start listening to what they have to say.
  • Finding ways to create emotional resilience for confusion and uncertainty so that we can stay present and connect with what's true.
  • A somatic exercise that can help you experiment with mind-body communication.

Dirty Lola

Dirty Lola, Explore More Summit expert on sex toys and communication.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Why Lola finds the act of submitting a feminist act and how she reconciles being submissive with being autonomous and empowered.
  • Dealing with feelings of helplessness through self-care and sharing her small acts of resistance with the world.
  • Why we need to default to the safest option when we're negotiating sex and hook-ups.
  • Lola's tips for budding sex educators and her story of her first sexual experience.

TT Baum

TT Baum, sacred intimate and Bondassage trainer - Explore More Summit 2017

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Sacred intimacy and what it means to create a safe space for people to explore their edges and limits.
  • The power of bringing ritual into touch, pleasure, and sex, including kink and Domination.
  • Why so many men are touch deprived, and how that can lead to conflating touch needs with sexual needs. 
  • TT's tips for massaging a partner and staying present as you give and receive pleasure.

Day 9: Aired March 16, 2017

Lux Alptraum

Lux Alptraum

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • The power that media, marketing, and pop culture have on our understanding and beliefs around sex.
  • What media coverage of sex scandals really tells us about how sexually open and free we are as a society.
  • Lux's recent curiosity around our romantic versus sexual attractions and how we value certain kinds of connections over others.
  • Why healthy relationships require being able to tolerate uncertainty and discomfort on a regular basis.
  • What sexual freedom and things like pornography are facing under the current presidency.

Orpheus Black

Orpheus Black

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • BDSM as a tool for deep healing, transcendent pleasure, and profound self-awareness.
  • Why Dominants need to be able to hold space for cathartic release and big emotions from their subs.
  • Orpheus's perspective on healthy kink and meaningful connection, and why the future of kink depends on shifting towards a supportive, nurturing model of D/s.
  • What a Master/slave dynamic entails and tips for a hot spanking scene.

Gina Senarighi

Dr. Gina Senarighi, Explore More Summit expert on non-monogamy, relationships, communication, and queer issues.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • How to create a new framework for mistakes in relationship that don't rely on blame or self-criticism, and instead offer a chance for accountability and connection.
  • Managing comparison and jealousy with self-compassion and awareness instead of reacting and judging ourselves for these normal emotions.
  • How long-term, successful couples continually re-negotiate their relationships and needs to make it a living, breathing agreement.
  • Why tabling or avoiding difficult conversations, though common, can be incredibly corrosive and damaging to relationships.

Day 10: Aired March 17, 2017

Virgie Tovar

Virgie Tovar, Explore More Summit expert on body love, body positivity, and fat acceptance.

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • The ways that diet culture and dieting can make us feel safe, even if it means tremendous suffering and misery. (Good news: It's not our fault!)
  • Why happy fat bodies are tremendously threatening to people who live with thin privilege and work hard to maintain conformity.
  • Fat fetishism versus thin fetishism and the rampant, but invisible nature of thin fetishism that surrounds us.
  • Virgie's powerful thoughts on how trust-building in relationships can be a slow, painful process for people in fat and/or marginalized bodies due to repeated cultural trauma.

Elle Chase

Orpheus Black

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Elle's powerful story of first discovering and stepping into her sexuality at age 40.
  • The truth about dating and sex in a fat body and why size really does matter less than we're led to believe.
  • Elle's suggestions for finding ways to feel sexy regardless of how you feel about your body or in your body at any given moment.
  • How ashamed we can feel if are experiencing loneliness, and ways we can build in some kindness and ease around that tough emotion.

Emily Quinn

Emily Quinn - Explore More Summit

A few of the things we touch on include:

  • Emily's very touching story of how she learned she was intersex and the messages she received from a young age about being intersex.
  • Why the medical community is still conducting genital mutilation on young bodies in the name of "normalcy."
  • Why small shifts in language can cause tremendous permission in reducing feelings of isolation and rejection.
  • Jumping into awkward conversations and how Emily has navigated these moments over and over again.
  • Why coming out as intersex often yields a much different reaction than coming out as queer.

This is about shedding the shame, celebrating your body, centering your pleasure, and rewriting your story. Grab the goods & dive in.

SILVER

Grab the summit MP3 audio files for all of the summit talks. Listen and re-listen at your leisure, then start some juicy conversations as you explore your more. Plus, get all 10 mini workbooks.

GOLD

If you're ready to take the leap and explore even more, this is the package for you.

You'll get access to the audio files AND videos for all of the talks (that's only 75 cents each), plus their transcripts. You'll also get 10 expanded workbooks packed with transformative exercises, journal prompts, and questions expanding on each of the summit talks AND access to 6 weeks of recorded group calls (9 hours!) taking you deeper into overwhelm, empathy, pleasure, receiving, performance, and much more.

PLATINUM

Not only will you get everything in the Gold package (audio files, videos, transcripts, expanded workbook, and recordings of  6 weeks of group calls), but you'll be an official Explore More VIP.

As a VIP, you'll receive $200 worth of goodies which include a free copy of Dawn Serra's Relationship Reconnection Kit, access to 2016's summit talks and workbooks, AND a one-hour one-on-one coaching call with Dawn.